So much of my life is centered around my womanness and my blackness, areas where I experience less privilege, but it wasn't until a woman came and spoke to me after one of my talks that I realized there are actually far more parts of my identity that I experience enormous privilege: I'm straight, I'm able-bodied, I was born an American, and I have fertility privilege. Watch to hear the feedback I received that I will never forget.
Sometimes our kids teach us the biggest lessons. My 10-year-old daughter and I were on a very crowded New York City subway, when a seat opened up around 3 seats up from us. I was very surprised when my daughter squeezed her way to grab that seat. When we got off the train, I told my daughter that that was rude, and she turned around to say, "Seriously mom, if you want something you have to go for it." It was a profound moment, and I realized that many of us can learn from Ekua's advice. Here's how.
What's the difference between a professional and personal brand? That's the discussion I had recently with one woman I know. At work, she said she was known as being relentless, but she views her personal brand as more fun. I soon came to this epiphany: There is no brand without consistency. While our brands can be expressed differently, what we stand for can never change. Here's how to develop a consistent brand.
I recently attended the launch party for the book Alpha Girls, which chronicles the journeys of a few successful and prominent female VCs. As a founder and entrepreneur, I was excited to meet these women, but as an introvert, I was anxious to attend an event like this. To combat this, I came up with this networking hack: Watch to find out the question I asked.
Being an author doesn't necessarily make you a thought leader. You're a thought leader when your ideas are in demand. There are a few ways to establish yourself as a thought leader that are less time consuming than writing a book! Watch and learn how.
The antidote to stress? Know what brings you joy. I know so many women who are completely overwhelmed with responsibilities, but don't take a minute for themselves. Even if it's just for a short period of time, try to do something every day that brings you joy. Here's how.
There are many times in our lives when we're trying to cultivate a relationship with someone in order to secure their investment. If their request or their questions aren't sitting right with you, move on. Recently, I was meeting with a male VC while fundraising for my new company The Cru, a peer mentorship platform. He said, "Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I don't really understand why someone would want this. Convince me." I politely declined. Here's why.
Whenever I am feeling overwhelmed, I search for Oprah's inspirational videos on YouTube. Recently, I found myself in a situation where I needed to be in two very important places at the same time—in New York and Boston. It was devastating because I hate disappointing people that I care about. Then I heard this epiphany from Oprah: "You can't live a brave life without disappointing some people." Watch and learn how I put this into practice.
Here's a confession: Earlier this year I was really struggling with tackling an item on my monthly to-do list, so I just didn't do it. I kept putting it off and ignoring it, until an email from a colleague made me stop and take a closer look at the to-do. Her email included three very important questions that challenged me to decide if this was something I needed to keep doing. Could I take this off my goal list? Watch and learn to find out the questions and how I realized it's okay to change your goals.
I talk with so many women who lament the fact that they haven't spent time cultivating their network. It can feel overwhelming to stay in touch, but here's my secret: It only takes four hours a year to maintain a network. First, you need to rethink what the word maintain means. Here are some of the best ways to keep your network updated.