Tiffany's Epiphanies

Tiffany's Epiphanies: What Made You Successful Won't Keep You Successful

I was recently watching the HBO documentary The Defiant Ones about Jimmy Iovine and Dr. Dre. This documentary had a huge impact on me, and, specifically, the scene in which Bruce Springsteen describes why Jimmy has been so successful: "He is willing to shed what made him successful and take on new behaviors--he's not afraid of moving forward." This one line made me look inward to think about which behaviors are holding me back. Watch and learn what I came to realize.

Tiffany's Epiphanies: If You Don't Let Losing Stop You, It Will Propel You Forward

Many women don't put their hat in the ring or reach for lofty goals until they are overqualified. After experiencing highs and lows while launching The Cru, I've realized that when you do face failure or don't get what you want, you're forced into asking yourself some poignant questions: Why did I want this to begin with? Whose help do I need to get there? What do I need to reach my goals? If you don't let losing stop you, losing will propel you forward.

Tiffany's Epiphanies: Want to Find a Soul Mate? Know Thyself

"Why did you marry your husband?" my therapist asked me. I paused and responded that Kojo gave me the freedom to discover who I was going to be without feeling pressure to be the wife he wanted me to be. I realized this: The secret to finding a partner is self-awareness, and understanding what you need from a partner for you to thrive. Watch and learn how to discover what makes you tick.

Tiffany's Epiphanies: Changing a Story Requires Changing Assumptions

We often get blocked by the assumptions we make: my company is too big to innovate; women don't support one another; men can't handle running a household. Next time you're trying to solve a tough problem ask yourself, what are the the stories I might be telling myself that could be supporting this gridlock? That is the first step to move past it.

Tiffany's Epiphanies: It's Okay to Receive Without Giving

Women are very comfortable giving and helping others. We are eager to support each other—whether at work or at home—but if we need help with certain tasks we are very hesitant to ask for help. Then, when someone does go the extra mile for us, we feel guilty that we haven't reciprocated. That's what happened to me at my latest airbnb stay (watch for the story). But I realized this: Generosity is like karma, it ebbs and flows. It's okay to receive without giving.

Tiffany's Epiphanies: Getting Worked Up Only Brings You Down

I always know when I'm overworked: I'm exhausted, my skin breaks out, my anxiety is high, and I am easily irritated—AKA I lash out at my nearest and dearest for no reason. Here's what I learned: Getting worked up only brings you down. Here's what helped: Taking stock of what was on my plate to see why I was spinning so ferociously. Watch for more on how I stopped this path to burnout.

Tiffany's Epiphanies: Purpose and a Paycheck Are Not Mutually Exclusive

There's a common misconception that to do good in the world you have to sacrifice a paycheck. It's simply not true. As someone who has worked in both the non-profit and for-profit sector, I know that you can create change in the world from the inside of corporate America. So when you're looking for your new job, don't limit yourself with arbitrary guidelines. Find the right job that aligns with your purpose.

Tiffany's Epiphanies: Over Compromising Can Backfire

On a work trip, against my better judgment, I accepted an offer to stay at a donor's house instead of a hotel. You need to watch to understand why this was the worst idea ever (spoiler: it involves puppets). Unfortunately, women are socially conditioned to be accommodating, but what this experience taught me is that it's possible to take graciousness too far. The next time you find yourself in a workplace situation where you feel like conceding will cost you too much, don't do it.

Tiffany's Epiphanies: Clues You Should Be a Professional Public Speaker

Besides being an author and an entrepreneur, I am a professional public speaker. I’m often asked by others contemplating the same path: How do I know if I have the potential to be a professional public speaker? Here’s what I ask them: When you give talks do people respond emotionally? Do people already invite you to speak, but they're unpaid? If you said yes to both, you can definitely turn your passion into a profession. Here's how to do it.