A Peek Inside My Village: Wednesday Martin


I first experienced Wednesday Martin at TEDWomen. Our mutual literary agent e-introduced us before we arrived and we agreed to meet at a bar right before the opening reception, which we ended up ditching once our lychee martinis and sex conversation started flowing. Wednesday is a social researcher who writes about parenting and motherhood, gender and popular culture.

Her last book, Primates of Park Avenuewas an instant #1 New York Times bestseller. Most recently, she's turned her anthropological lens on an elusive topic: female sexuality. All I can say is that the night I met Wednesday I learned that everything I knew about my libido was wrong.

Since that time her family has hosted mine for Thanksgivings and Christmas and one of the things I've observed about Wednesday is that she doesn't cook. She once had me in stitches recalling a time when she sent her oldest son into shock by making a pot of soup. She recently explained why she had to throw her culinary identity out the window. "I dropped the ball on cooking when my kids were really little because I didn’t enjoy it, and it disrupted my writing flow at a time when I had very little writing time. Plus everything about it, from the shopping to the chopping to the cooking to timing it so things were ready at the same time, stressed me out and made me grumpy." Wednesday's self-awareness as a new mom prompted her to release the unrealistic expectation that she prepare all of her family's meals and freed her up to focus on her work.

All of us will benefit from her decision when her forthcoming book, Untrue, is released this fall. You can pre-order her jaw-dropping insights here. I'll be reading with the book in one hand and a lychee martini in the other.