This is a big week for me and my family. My book, Drop the Ball, will be released tomorrow (!) on Valentine's Day and it's dedicated to my husband, Kojo. We've been married for 20 years, so I'm often asked, "What's your secret?" Here's one big thing I've realized: In order to find the North Star in your partnership, you'll need a Couple's Compass. What's a Couple's Compass? A set of criteria you use to guide your decision making. Find out the questions Kojo and I ask ourselves to figure out what matters most to us as a couple.